FATHERHOOD FRIDAY / Anthony Esteves

Anthony Esteves is a designer and creative force. 

I live in Maine with my partner Julie O'Rourke, our baby boy Diogo, and our dog Violet. I design spaces, surfaces, and objects, and I spend a lot of time outdoors.  

Every father has his story.  This is a small glimpse into Anthony's.

1.  Sometimes, the connection to fatherhood is not immediate. Was it for you?  And if not, was there a moment that you really felt, "Woah. I'm a dad."

I caught Diogo when he was born, so that was definitely the "whoa im a Dad" moment. We had a home birth that lasted 60 hours, it was like running a marathon. For me it was an incredible lesson in being present and aware of someone else and their needs wholly. Which is a completely invaluable lesson when, within moments, you all of a sudden have a baby to take care of.  


2.  What has been easier than you thought it would be?  How about harder?

Poop! I was so scared of all the poop. But we started using Elimination Communication when Diogo was 6 weeks old, and it changed my understanding of how babies go to the bathroom. It was a great way for me and Diogo to initially bond and for me to learn to understand his needs and what his queues are. When you begin the process you spend a lot of time staring at your baby and waiting for him to poop, you really get to know him in a different way. He's 8 months old now and out of diapers 80% of most days. It's a pretty exciting accomplishment for both of us, plus i think he really gets a kick out of pooping in the toilet. . 


3.  What kids book would you read a million times out loud in a row?  What book are you actually have to read a million times out loud in a row? How about songs?

Every morning Diogo reaches for a book called Goodnight Maine, it's a mediocre play off Goodnight Moon, he thinks its funny if I read it very loudly and with accents, I'm sure Julie loves waking up to it too.. We also make up a lot of songs, Diogo is endlessly fascinated with things that make noise so we like to play instruments and bang things together and be as loud as possible.



4.  What traditions are you excited to carry on with your son?

I really want to share with Diogo his Portuguese heritage. My father was born in Lisbon and moved to the states as a boy. His family immigrated to East Providence RI where he grew up and eventually had me. My father, Antonio passed away when I was 18 and along with his passing some family ties were severed as well. It was a difficult loss to say the least. Now that Diogo is here it feels as though a new beginning is possible. I'm excited to experience and discover our family's Portuguese traditions in a new light, alongside of my son.



5.  Being a dad makes me feel _____________________.  

excited for the moment he asks me to be in his rock band...

Thank you for this amazing interview and images, Anthony!  Please check out his inspiring work on www.muwincollective.com and his amazing Instagram account.


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